"Abigail Shrier dares to tell the truth about a monstrous ideological fad that has already ruined countless children's lives. History will look kindly on her courage." (Michael Knowles, Host of the Michael Knowles Show) I’m up early writing this on a Sunday morning because I read this book before I went to bed on Saturday night. It bothered me so intensely that I had to write and share this information. If you have a young teenage daughter in your home you MUST stop and or

To a certain degree, we are all a little self-centered. But there are others who are a LOT self-centered. You will always know when you are dealing with a self-centered person because their actions will always benefit them in some way. Even when they are doing things for others, their motive is how the kindness is making them look, or what they are gaining from doing something nice. Self-centered people don't think about others' plans. They are consumed with their own. They t

Overly-competitive people have to win. They HAVE to win. When they are in competitive mode they have little regard for others' feelings. They constantly feel the need to one-up others. If you have this, they have one better. If you have that, they have one newer. If you accomplished thus or so, guess what, they can go one farther! Competitive people are happiest when they are up against people who feel like losers. They trash talk or brag, when the truth is, they often have v

A person with no limits or boundaries is exactly that, a person with no limits. They set no real limits on themselves, their spending, their time, their comments, or in their decision-making. A person who has no limits (often referred to as narcissistic) can be frustrating at times because they won't take no for an answer. They get pushy (or manipulative) to convince you to do something with little to no regard for how you feel about it. They convincingly talk you into going

Jealous people want what others have desperately, but have no belief in their ability to get it. They believe everyone is against them somehow, and that is why they don't have what they want. Jealousy is a type of victim mentality. They always have a finger pointed to blame and play on peoples empathy because of it. Jealous people will pretend to be your friend until you don't help them get what they want or you hurt them in some manner. Once you hurt them, they will make sur

People with Disruptive Personality Behavior seem to enjoy making life difficult for others -at least it appears that way. Disruptive personalities like attention. They tend to show up late or far too early just to be acknowledged. They need attention and they will be "disruptive" to get it. Disruptive personalities really shine at large parties and gatherings. They tend to walk in a room and suck the air right out of it. Most people with disruptive behavior personality have

In 2010, I began my journey into Christian Counseling by studying Creation Therapy and Temperament Counseling. I never dreamed I would be so intrigued. I have learned so much about myself in the last 12 years as well as learning how to help people understand themselves. Scripture has a lot to say about our human design and how God knew us before we were even a thought! Then He put his thumbprint on us right in the womb! We are truly God's design! Jeremiah 1:5 states, “I knew

I am determined. The first half of my life has whizzed by. Memories. Scars. Callouses. Age spots. And wrinkles… All have accompanied me thus far. Something in my spirit is almost demanding me to slow things down. So many little things are available to us to enjoy, but we can get so busy making a life that we don’t enjoy life or people. It’s all moving too fast. Hours are passing. And worse, years are passing. We work too hard. And we live too fast. Sometimes our lives are com

Opportunity—a favorable time or occasion when we are in a position to make a decision that could forever impact our lives. Mark 5 A certain woman who had an issue of blood for twelve years, 26  and had suffered many things under many physicians, and had spent all that she had and was no better, but rather grew worse, 27  when she had heard of Jesus, came up behind Him in the press of the crowd and touched His garment; 28  for she said, “If I may touch but His clothes, I shall

The word “habit” comes from a Latin word which means to “hold” or “live in”. A habit is some way of acting, which, because of repetition, becomes a normal part of our lives. All of us have habits, all kinds of habits.   nail biting, knuckle cracking, clicking your nails, chronic coughing, throat clearing, grinding your teeth, sucking your teeth, procrastination, overspending, swearing, and constantly running late… all habits. Regular exercise, daily bible study, three healthy

Once married always married? Should be. But unfortunately sneaky little things can come in and corrupt a good marriage. Our job is to...

It was Hippocrates, five centuries before Christ, who is believed to have taken the basic theory of temperament and framed it as a medical concept. The names of the four temperaments are thought to originate from bodily fluids associated with the liver, heart, lungs, and kidneys. While science has evolved, the foundational idea remains: temperament offers a meaningful key to understanding the mystery of who we are. The ancient phrase “know thyself,”  inscribed on the forecour

What is Temperament? Temperament is the set of traits that makes you unique. Temperament explains why you interact the way you do with...

Lets first look at what it is not. Trust is NOT leaving church to go out and find a boyfriend or girlfriend and then dragging them to...

About half of all marriages in the United States end in divorce. Those statistics represent Christian marriages as well as others. It is...

This famous hymn was written by a Chicago lawyer,  Horatio G. Spafford after several traumatic events in his life.  You might think to write a worship song titled, ‘It is well with my soul,' you would indeed have to be a rich, successful Chicago lawyer.  But the words, “When sorrows like sea billows roll … It is well with my soul”, were not written during the happiest period of  Spafford’s life. On the contrary, they came from a man who had suffered almost unimaginable pers

The time between adulthood and childhood is full of changes – both physical and emotional. With hormones raging, teenagers often find it difficult to be ‘social’ people. Temper tantrums, sulking, and ignoring parents – all these are standard teenage behavior. Most teenagers feel that others "just don’t get it." Being a teenager is not easy. But we have all been there. We get it! Conflict is part of life. No matter how much your parents want to protect you from it, you have to

Stress. Disappointment. Disagreements. Heavy work schedule. Busy calendars. Plans that failed. Kids that won’t mind. A spouse that...

The cross is both vertical and horizontal. Vertically, we connect to God. Horizontally, we connect with people. We must realize that our...

Many many people have had to reach out for counseling at least once in their lifetime. Some, more than a few. It can be a scary thing to...