Hard Things

Talking about the "hard things" in life is fundamentally difficult because these conversations inevitably push us outside of our comfort zones. The primary barriers are often rooted in intense feelings of shame, guilt, embarrassment, and vulnerability.

We desire to project an image of having it "all together." This fear—that our real struggles, mistakes, or needs will lead to a loss of respect or outright rejection—drives us to silence. Admitting to deeply personal issues like addictions, abuse, or financial struggles can feel like it will tarnish our reputation or expose our weaknesses.

Further complicating this is the role of societal taboos. Many subjects, such as mental health, personal finances, relationships, and death, carry significant stigma. Breaking through these widely accepted social barriers requires substantial courage and a delicate approach.

Ultimately, we are hardwired to avoid emotional pain, conflict, and anxiety. It feels safer in the immediate moment to maintain silence, cover our pain, hide our emotions, and protect our self-image than to initiate a distressing dialogue.

However, silence gives power to shame and isolation. The amazing truth is that when we open the door to discuss these hard things, God's redemptive power enters those areas. His power begins to break the stronghold these hidden issues hold over us. God can provide the strength we need to have these difficult conversations, helping us dismiss the fear that keeps us hostage to vulnerability.